Band of Brothers: Replacements with Paul McDonald and John Anderson
Coming up on the Men at the Movies podcast, we move into episode four of the Band of Brothers series, Replacements. It can be tough being the new guy trying to find your role in a group of established veterans. You’re afraid you won’t measure up, afraid you don’t really belong. Thankfully, there are men like Sgt Randleman who, over time, can help you develop the quiet strength that eliminates the imposter syndrome. Join us as we discover God’s truth in this story.
Quotes
A lot of men experience stress because the bond of camaraderie doesn’t happen overnight.
We frequently want what others have (jobs, houses, relationships) without being willing to put in the time and work necessary to get it.
Relax and calm down and realize your entire worth and value aren’t riding on the next turn of events.
Battle (the conflict, loss and trauma we experience) is like a pressure cooker that tenderizes in a hurry.
Don’t try to take from him what you’re desperate not to lose yourself.
He’s the kind of guy who looks around and sees who needs help and offers to teach them something.
Why are you apologizing for not knowing how to do something you’ve never done before?
This is about trying to invite someone into a way of living.
Eventually there will come a time when the veterans need to the new guys to rescue them.
Relationships grow through conflict.
Do the thing that you’re afraid of being exposed about. Getting exposed isn’t as bad as you think.
Themes
Dealing with the imposter syndrome: the feeling that you don’t really belong, that you’re in danger of being discovered as a fraud, fake, imposter. The fear that you won’t measure up when tested. You’ll do anything to fit in. Tends to diminish others, showing how they don’t really belong in an effort to bolster their own approval and belonging.
How to develop the quiet strength that eliminates the imposter syndrome. To make an impact by just being yourself.
It takes time. It doesn’t develop overnight.
You have to go through battle and loss.
Belong simply because they belong. Don’t have to earn their belonging.
Preserves dignity and honor
Shares what he has learned through trial and error in an effort to protect, not diminish
Be curious, not judgemental
Develop your toolbox along the way. Don’t feel like you have to know it all at the beginning.
Resources
Questions
How do you feel as the new guy going into an established situation?
When you’re the established veteran, what is your approach to the new guys?
Who do you know that has a quiet strength like Sgt Randleman?
Where do you find yourself longing for something, but not wanting to put in the work to get it?
Where do you feel like you don’t belong? What will you do to fit in?
When did someone call you out on your bullshit in public? How did that feel? Did that amplify or diminish the imposter syndrome? How would it have been if you had been corrected in private?
When did someone take the time to speak truth to you in private? How did you grow from that in a different way than being confronted in public?
Who has spoken against your imposter syndrome, giving you permission to belong?
Where have you let conflict derail relationships? What kept you from moving past it?
How has conflict allowed your relationships to grow?
Where are you afraid of being exposed? What would it be like to do it anyway?
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Edited and mixed by Grayson Foster
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Audio quotes performed by Britt Mooney, Paul McDonald, and Tim Willard, taken from Epic (written by John Eldredge) and Song of Albion (written by Stephen Lawhead).
Southerly Change performed by Zane Dickinson, used under license from Shutterstock.
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